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Question: Do you ever really get over your first love?

(Posted by: xlhelloxkittylx on 2010-02-09 00:49:22)

I don't think so.. I first fell in love over 3 years ago..and although we don't see each other anymore..I can't imagine myself falling in love with anyone else... Is anyone else like this? Stuck in their first love? Tell me your stories =D Well this quote really describes how I feel. "I tried to go on like I never knew you. I'm awake, but my world is half asleep. I pray for this heart to be unbroken, but without you all I'm going to be is incomplete. " =[

Posted by: yuna on 2010-02-10, 22:29:03

Lol, me too! I met my first love 3 years ago. I still love him just as much, even though we're not going out anymore. I don't think we ever truly get over our first loves. We'll find new people to love, but that first time will always remain with us, I guess. I'm not at that point, but I hope I will be. I hope you will be too! My first love ? He's three years older, a graduating senior in high school this year. We live on opposite sides of the country D: The timing wasn't right, I guess. We just.. fell apart. There's times when we talk, but then that awkwardness and loss of words comes back. I miss him; I hope he'll be ok, and that he finds someone new to like. Someone who'll love him as much as I did. & I hope he won't forget me.

Posted by: deduceit on 2010-02-09, 00:52:15

Your not in love, you just havent found someone better.

Posted by: Big Bird on 2010-02-09, 00:52:26

Yes, the man in big bird's suit is over him but still dont see himself falling in love again. Cant be comitted.

Posted by: Aj on 2010-02-09, 00:54:05

Nah, there is always a little part of you that your first love will always be in. I can tell you that I am still best friends with the first girl I fell in love with and even though I have moved on I still care about her tremendously.

Posted by: David on 2010-02-09, 00:54:14

Kind of, but not really. It was strange. I broke up with her, because I thought I didn't "feel that way ". I actually did. I was just stupid, and didn't understand my own feelings. I was a silly 13 year old. I guess I've moved on, 3 years later. But I don't know. Maybe I'm not over her...

Posted by: Jacki on 2010-02-09, 00:54:34

I felt that way at first, until I really fell in love. Even then I thought about him at first, but he also hurt me the most. Now I really don't care what he's doing, who he's with, etc. I didn't think it was possible to feel stronger about a person than I did for him, but then I met my boyfriend. I didn't know anything about love then.

Posted by: mr winkles on 2010-02-09, 00:54:46

Yeah i used to really like this girl when i was in elementary, but i moved schools when we switched to middle school alot of times when i think about going out with someone she's the first thing that pops into ur mind, not becuz u still love them but becuz they're the first time u experienced love.oh and i just recently started talking to her agaiun but idk how to ask her out

Posted by: jgreg on 2010-02-09, 00:55:16

As for me.. Yes I did.. I did forget her when I met a girl more than she is.. ☺

Posted by: n3cromanticd3vil on 2010-02-09, 00:55:30

I haven't. To be honest I think you never stop loving your first love. Your feelings may weaken but you will always love them. Mine lasted five years only to a heart shattering valentines day last year. Not a day goes by that I don't think about her but I did move on but only dated one person since. But you could fall in love with someone else. It just takes time.

Posted by: STAR TRILL-UGK 4LIFE on 2010-02-09, 00:55:46

Yeah u get over the first love, but u have to left yourself get over that person, you cant keep thinkin bout that person all the time otherwise you goina let life past you by u

Posted by: Bryan R on 2010-02-09, 00:56:24

Omg! me too, its hard cause she still holds number one in my heart even after 3 years too. i dont see or talk to her anymore but i miss the shit out of her. it sucks but i know how u feel :( i like to think ill fall in love again and feel the same for her as i did with my ex but i doubt it. which makes it really hard. u jus gatta go with it i guess.

Posted by: Cat. •That's all... on 2010-02-09, 00:58:30

Hi from France ♫ To me it's yes !.. To such a point I often ask to myself how I was able to love someone like the first !..!o! ... I found a man 1000000000 times better than this first one so ... Have a nice day, Catherine

Posted by: Winnie on 2010-02-09, 00:59:14

Yes you do, you just need to give your heart to somebody else, try to get over him by seeing other guys. if ones first love doesnt work out, people say oh my god i will never love like this again,and when they do, they deny they ever felt that way before! you will love again, and a lot more, just give it time. my first love was puppy love, at least thats how i see it now, since im deeply in love with my boyfriend.

Posted by: ☮ on 2010-02-09, 00:59:15

Okay here is my story = ) and hopefully the ending will make you a little bit hopeful. 7th and 8th grade I really liked this boy. He was always trying to go out of his way to make me laugh.. the day he was new at our school on the bus ride home I saw him get off and walk to his house (all the girls liked him and I didn't think I would have a chance) so I thought to myself *I am going to be his best friend that he is going to tell all of his problems to and then he is going to fall for me!* well we ended up becoming really close and by our freshman year of high school were completely in love.. and best friends. finally after that entire year of us being closer than anyone we finally after everyone saying "when are you two gunna get married already? " and "you two are made for each other just be with each other " we finally were together. We had a very fun and passionate one year after that.. loosing our virginity to each other.. each other's first loves, everything. After that year something happened and we broke up. It wasn't worth breaking up over but I was upset so I just did it. Then he was so hurt, he didn't talk to me for months. Junior year started and we both hated/ loved each other. He wouldn't talk to me but he would whisper "I love you " at school when he sat behind me in class and would finally ask me to hangout and I would start to ignore him. We did this throughout the whole year until at the end we told each other we loved each other again and kissed. He ended up ignoring me that whole summer and then senior year started. I still loved him, he still gave me attention.. we would hangout and he would give me long hugs and I realized I needed to move on.. and my love for him of 4 years has to end. Finally went to that last football game and looked up and he was looking down at my from the bleachers.. it was a sad moment but then I fell out of love. I then decided to move across country and start over and I met this amazing guy! We have been together for almost a year now. We are amazing together. We are so much alike. He is so amazing and treats me better than anyone ever had. I couldn't imagine my life without.. we go places together.. we went to australia last summer and got to experience so many thing's with each other. I love him with all my heart and know you can find true love again. He's my baby! The one I know I'm suppose to be with. I think about my ex every now and then but we are so different people now I realize it never would have worked.

Posted by: Injun on 2010-02-09, 01:00:58

Well I still talk to my first love, it has been 25 years since we have been together. We remain good friends to this day, it is really hard to get over that first love. You will always compare you new loves to the first one! You will find a new love someday, don't worry it's okay to be stuck on somebody, but don't let that stop you from living and enjoying yourself!

Posted by: Canadian Bacon on 2010-02-09, 01:01:31

The first one is always the hardest. I loved my first girlfriend but after 6 months a switch flicked and I knew it wasn't the relationship I wanted and If i kept on going longer with her it would only make things harder because I knew it wasn't meant to be. It's been over two years now and I still from time to time think "was I wrong to break up with her? " and even after 2 years I tried to get back together with her but I just couldn't do it. I couldn't make that simple small step. She's one of my best friends now though and I'm glad I didn't mess things up by getting back together and breaking her heart again. I love her, I care about her, but it wasn't the right match. Should I have played it out longer though? No. The heart break would have been even worse. Along the way you look for signs that you did the right thing (at least for me) and breaking up with her was the right thing for me. You might hear the words you need to hear in a song, from the way you feel, or just a connection you strike up with another girl that you can connect with on an even greater level with than your first. I think that you do get over your first love... but there isn't anything like your first love. It's the relationship you miss the most, and not the first love. There's so many firsts it's hard to forget who you shared it with. It's not a great feeling but once you get out there and into another relationship it gets easier to adjust and you learn from experience. Honestly, I think the next relationship you'll have can be, and will be far greater than your first ever will be because you have experience and you use your experience to make the next relationship better. And in the end we just crave what relationships have to offer us which is the sensation of being loved and cared for.

Posted by: alysiera on 2010-02-09, 01:02:11

Hm my story.. I fell in love with my "first love " when i was 13. Some people say too young to truely love someone but I loved him with everything in my 13 year old heart, and the way a 13 year old knew to love. Lol. He was my first EVERYTHING. First kiss first time first going on a date by myself first guy I ditched with, you know, typical things. We were together a year and a half and he broke up with me because my mom HATED him. A year later I got over him.. It was weird because my new boyfriend (my second love) at the time made me completly forget about him? So, I think the first guy was maybe a phase? Anywho. The second dude, I love him till this very day. Weve been broken up for about 4 years now, Im married with children, and I still love him. Our friends always used to call us Noah and Allie like the people in "The Notebook ". Lol. I will always love him but I love him in a different way now. I want him to be happy, and he wants me to be happy, I would still go to the ends of the earth for him as he would for me. But I dont want to kiss him anymore, or hold his hand or cuddle with him... I guess I love him like a best friend? Who knows. But He will always undoubtedly be a part of my life. edit: Im obviously married to another man. lol. But I will say after we broke up I compared every other person to my second love (whom i consider my first love). I think your first love is the person that you will go through life and always think of them. The person you will always remember by the little things and great memories. The one that you will compare every other person to throughout your whole life, and no one will ever be them in ways. If someone hasnt found that person that they wont ever get over or ever stop wanting happiness for them, then they havent found their first love. (my opinion.)