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Question: I need love advice!!?

(Posted by: on 2010-03-10 08:23:21)

Ok, this is gonna be a long one. Hi, I’m Natalie. I’m 19 years old, and I have a huge problem so I would appreciate honest and respectful answers – please no jokes!! So, I’m almost finished my first year of University, and I have completely fallen for this guy. We met in your history class in October. We both love the same movie, and I have a tattoo of something from that movie on my wrist and he asked about it. He also invited me to his room to watch a related movie, but a really close friend passed away during that same time, and I think we both just forgot about it. I have had feelings for him all this time, and just now, I’ve told my best friend how I feel. The problem is I don’t know how to let him know how I feel. He knows that someone likes him, but he doesn’t know it’s me. He’s a really nice guy, really shy (doesn’t even have Facebook), and he has completely stolen my heart, but he doesn’t know it. My problem is, I am horrible at talking to guys, I don’t know how to flirt, so I need some advice (HONEST advice) on how to deal with this. I am so scared of losing him (to another girl). Does anyone out there have any advice for me about what I should do??

Posted by: Madelinee <3 on 2010-03-10, 08:25:46

Hang out with him and get to know him better and have him get to know you better. Don't be fake though

Posted by: Kim on 2010-03-10, 08:25:47

Just be sweet and tell him how you feel or just let it naturally happen without telling him anything

Posted by: idoit on 2010-03-10, 08:26:07

Just talk to him, become friends, hang out some more and it;ll happen.

Posted by: shiroi oni on 2010-03-10, 08:28:09

Um you could kinda do it this way. you could write him a letter and slip it into his backpack or something when you see him and when he finds it he'll come talk to you about it and you can go from there. hope this helps!

Posted by: Mary on 2010-03-10, 08:28:45

I think that you need to go to a neutral place with him and just say what you have to say. On the one hand, he could be completely smitten with you and is having the same trouble that you are having. On the other hand, he could just want to be friends with you only. I know how bad it is to talk to a guy about our feelings but if you don't tell him, you'll get upset about it later. Just try to rehearse a sitation in your mind and go for it! Good luck!

Posted by: I love tylerbee on 2010-03-10, 08:28:48

Just be yourself. tell him how you feel invite him for coffee or out to dinner or something and tell him how you feel over dinner. You don't have to flirt toget him to catch on that its you.. just be honest and truthful to him. If your scared to lose him to another girl don't be because if he likes you then well you dont need to worry.

Posted by: Milo on 2010-03-10, 08:29:29

Just be completey honest and tell him how u feel

Posted by: Reid on 2010-03-10, 08:33:29

If you love him just walk up to him when he is alone an tell him you love him and all you can hope for is he likes you or the feeling that you asked him rather than living in pitty that you never told him how you feel.

Posted by: Rwindshadow on 2010-03-10, 08:34:25

Hang out with him and get to know each other even better. The more time you spend with each other the easier it will be to express your feelings to him. And you may want to jokingly mention something about how you're horrible at talking with guys and flirting, that way maybe he'll get the hint that even though you have trouble talking to guys, you are able to talk to him, then he'll hopefully realize that you two have a special connection. Good Luck :)

Posted by: LYJC on 2010-03-10, 08:38:35

I think you already have a lot of good answers. Go for it and be real, no fake stuff. Be prepared for the answer you don`t want. Good luck