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Question: Female friend who i love cried over boyfriend and sex?

(Posted by: r3alrage on 2010-03-10 10:08:56)

My best friend who I love very much began to cry to me about her boyfriend. She loves him very much. And he supposedly loves her. She said that when they begin to do foreplay, she isn't aroused by him, and she began to blame herself (When really I wanted to say it was his fault I didn't. Because apart from the fact it possibly isn't, it can't be a woman's fault if she isn't sexually aroused) He gets slightly angry by this and claims things like there is no real difference between him and her, and a normal friendship and asks her how "They're supposed to go further " in a relationship if they can't even have foreplay let alone sex. I was kind of annoyed by this, and really think he's shallow. Something in me wants to break them up. Possibly because I want her for myself, but something in my feels like he only wants her for sex. Am I wrong? Or from this statement alone do you possibly think the same thing? Not literally break them up. But in a way, such as indicating the relationship is insufficient through statements.

Posted by: foxysince88 on 2010-03-10, 10:13:20

Obviously you care for her and your instincts (and emotions) are telling you that her boyfs a bad guy. The most you can do though is offer her advice and hope that she takes it. But the way you said "break them up " makes me think that you'd meddle in their relationship and you definitely shouldn't do that.

Posted by: Penguin on 2010-03-10, 10:10:55

Honestly, you should let her be she'll learn if hes using her or not the worse you can do is break them up.

Posted by: Rosalva on 2010-03-10, 10:13:24

Dont get involved with this a relationship should be of two not three and if you want her for yourself your probably crazy

Posted by: Ali on 2010-03-10, 10:15:04

Thx god im not u so this guy is about to bang this girl u like lmao anyways good luck solving this problem ahhahahaha

Posted by: Kyle on 2010-03-10, 10:16:32

If i were you i would have kicked the living $hit out of him for beeing like that, but thats just me

Posted by: Lexie. on 2010-03-10, 10:18:18

Let it be because you are probably making the story sound worse than it is or you are jut taking the bad parts in because you want her so you want to think her boyfriend is a bad guy. Who wouldnt get mad if there girlfriend wouldnt get aroused by them. i would dump her i mean so what its always gona be just kissy kissy no sex okay sso what is he suppsoe to do go fuck a hooker or just masterbathe all the time. if she isnt sexually attracted to him then she might as well dump him.

Posted by: Jade_Dragon on 2010-03-10, 10:20:30

You should tell her what you think, but tell her that you're only saying this so she doesn't have to go through the same pain over and over again. it actually does sound like he only wants her for sex. if she isn't roused by him, that probably means that deep down, she probably doesn't feel anything but maybe friendship for him. defend her if you can without getting her mad at you, and don't be a jerk about it. hope it helps:) tell the girl how you feel if she doesn't already know (dont sound creepy when you tell her!), and tell her if she doesn't feel the same, you'll still be her best friend.