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Question: Why don't get pleasure when my boyfriend and i have sex?

(Posted by: Matildeezy(: on 2010-02-08 20:15:28)

Almost everytime we have sex i never seem to get anything out of it. What can i do to change that?

Posted by: Blaine on 2010-02-08, 20:19:10

Get a better relationship. Bond, love him more.

Posted by: Leah on 2010-02-08, 20:19:13

Maybe you are not ready? Wait a while and try again :)

Posted by: Pursuit of happiness on 2010-02-08, 20:19:37

Wow! you need to really analyze how you feel about him. You should be able to talk to him and figure out what you like and he needs to be just as conscious of your needs as his. If you are really in love, you would both enjoy it.

Posted by: Kayla on 2010-02-08, 20:19:42

Seriously get a vibrator, hardly any man can do for me what that can

Posted by: Curious..... on 2010-02-08, 20:19:51

Try different positions

Posted by: Taylor on 2010-02-08, 20:19:55

Damn get a new boyfriend or tell him to play w your clit answers.yahoo.com/ question/ index;_ylt= Atu0JS78vtwj8OmSM4N.IXbsy6IX;_ylv= 3?qid= 20100208195732AAN0lEG

Posted by: Kevin on 2010-02-08, 20:20:17

Get a new bf answer my question? answers.yahoo.com/ question/ index?qid= 20100208201947AAX17s3

Posted by: Chris on 2010-02-08, 20:20:44

He can't please you with his tongue? Please tell me you had at least 1 orgasms. Girls should get off at least 5 times during sex.

Posted by: Whitney Y on 2010-02-08, 20:20:47

It took me a while to actually get pleasure with my boyfriend. i've come to find out it was because i was'nt really that comfortable and was thinking about millions of other things like "i wonder what he is thinking or what he thinks about my body " instead of actually just enjoying. so once i got more comforatble with him and stopped thinking about it i started getting pleasure. it also sometimes helps me to think about things that really turn me on.

Posted by: Waterdragon on 2010-02-08, 20:20:56

Let him know you are not happy --- if he cares he will do what he can to increase your pleasure and it is possible all he needs to do is think a bit more and want to please you more than himself

Posted by: sweetienat123 on 2010-02-08, 20:21:28

You could be one of the many women who can't have an orgasm from regular penetration. It's a pretty common thing...you might need outer (clitoral) stimulation via a finger, small vibrator, etc. If it's not that, maybe you just need more foreplay.

Posted by: B .(: on 2010-02-08, 20:22:25

Dont get a new boyfriend theres more to a relationship then sex. sex is just a tool used to bring you and your mate closer to come as one. once yolu realize that maybe you will enjoy it more.

Posted by: screww youuu, (: on 2010-02-08, 20:22:42

Get a new boyfriend, obviously he means nothing to you. D: answers.yahoo.com/ question/ index;_ylt= Auf8BFklWzuFxNiuDwq_wCTsy6IX;_ylv= 3?qid= 20100208201208AA32jsH ANSWERR!!!!!!!

Posted by: ekto s on 2010-02-08, 20:22:48

It seems to me that sex is a really intimate thing. You do this when you are really attached to someone. You do this for love. If you do not love him or if you feel he does not love you or if you do not feel attached or intimate, then your sex is just some mechanical thing. Men can enjoy this at a young age, but women do not. So where is your heart, really?? When you are apart, are you hungry to see him again, soon? If not, then you are not connected deeply. I am wondering how old you are, because different ages have different levels of intimacy.

Posted by: wise1 on 2010-02-08, 20:22:52

I always found it's far more enjoyable when you make the noises. Go for your own pleasure and his willfollow. Make sure to stimulate your clit.

Posted by: DM ♥ on 2010-02-08, 20:23:08

Try something new. luck ;)

Posted by: senioritis on 2010-02-08, 20:23:17

I agree, get a vibrator to use during sex- it hits the right spot better than he can every time. and you both will be happy. also try to increase intimacy in your relationship (look up intimacy)- it will bring you two closer together and help you all connect better during sex.

Posted by: jimmaresa on 2010-02-08, 20:27:36

You never stated your ages. That would help a lot. If you are in your later teens or early twenties, this looks like a time to see a doctor. You are not abnormal. Many people share your condition but it is best to get it checked out...NOW! It could be your conscience acting up. If you believe your behavior is inappropriate, that could really get in the way...is not a bad thing, contrary to popular opinions. Really, if you are old enough and have entered puberty, you should get to a doctor very soon.

Posted by: mr_gees100_peas on 2010-02-08, 20:27:49

What exactly do you mean when you say you are not getting anything out of it? DO you mean you don't feel sexually attracted to him? or do you mean that he is selfish or inexperience thus he doesn't know or maybe doesn't care about satisfying you? If its a matter of sexual attraction then that's a big problem. I don't think there is much you can do to make yourself sexually attracted to a person. If it is that he is inexperience then that has a solution but it does require work.The first step is to tell him that he ain't quite making the grade. The tricky part is doing it without hate or hurting his feeling. We men are very fragile that way. Once he accept it then it is up to you to teach him. I mean, who knows you better than yourself. If you like it a certain way then you have to transmit that information because we men ain't psychic. This may actually be good for the relationship because communication is a huge part of it. Exploring each other can be a very rewarding adventure. If the case is that he is selfish then the solution has a 50/ 50 success rate. If he accepts this and wants to work on it then again, with work and time things will improve. If he still wants to be selfish then might as well dumb him cause he ain't going to change.

Posted by: Mandy on 2010-02-08, 20:29:22

Sometimes guys dont know what they are doing or to nervous to experament. I think it would help if yall would go to a adult novalty store and pick out some things you think yall might like. if you deside to do that , when yall get the stuf you take over that night and get him into it then let him take over. if that dont work then yall might not be meant for each other