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Question: Should you bf know everything about your sexual history?

(Posted by: Priyakshi on 2010-03-09 01:13:47)

Posted by: Thunder on 2010-03-09, 02:08:07

Does the person who frequents restricted red light area, asks every one there associated with the profession about their past? Instead of having classes on history & wasting time, it is important to build a healthy relationship & trust. To some extent, telling truth helps building trust. But anything in extreme is bad. Your guy is supposed to be interested in you, not in your past.

Posted by: You have termites in your smile. on 2010-03-09, 01:15:06

Hmmmm no cos it just puts arguements into the relationship thats what it was like with me and connor

Posted by: Brittany on 2010-03-09, 01:15:47

Not every detail no, but probably the big stuff

Posted by: Mrs.Smith on 2010-03-09, 01:16:04

He should know everything that could effect his health. I don't think most guys want to know EVERYTHING. My husband would be cool about anything I could tell him, but I'm sure there are somethings he simply doesn't want to know.

Posted by: e92king on 2010-03-09, 01:16:40

YES...FOR SURE...IF UR BF SAYS HAVE U EVER HAD SEX AND THE GIRL DOESNT WANT TO ANSWER...THE GUY WILL BREAK UP WITH HER...same thing with the girl...if she asks the guy have u ever had sex and he said i dont wanna tell or talk about it...then the girl would leave him to...u have to b honest with ur bf/ gf

Posted by: AC on 2010-03-09, 01:16:45

No, it just kills him a little, don't let him know everything. Unless he tells you he really wants to know. Or if you feel like telling. good luck

Posted by: Hetty on 2010-03-09, 01:16:46

My boyfriend does, he doesn't really want to know but I tell him because I want to know all about his past so I can prepare my self for bitchyness from the tarts he has had! lol, Iv been with him for five years and bering open about my past hasn't harmed us, if anything it brings you closer together if you know everything and It makes me feel safer that the infor has come from me and not one of the sleeve bags I had a fling with! x

Posted by: musicfan1 on 2010-03-09, 01:17:09

NO it will make him feel bad.

Posted by: Pjae on 2010-03-09, 01:17:31

You should always be honest and upfront with your boyfriend firsthand to avoid bad confrontations in the future its best to tell him then leave it till later in the relationship if you dont tell him now he wil assume that you have something to hide unless hes doing the same thing when he brings up the subject tell him the whole truth.

Posted by: Tiffany S on 2010-03-09, 01:17:56

Yes...but i can understand if you haven't been with him for a long time that you wouldn't want him to no, but if you think you have any kind of std sti or any thing of that sort i believe its his right to no before you have sex

Posted by: droopy50 on 2010-03-09, 01:18:41

Truly depends if you are really that peace of crap human being , lier, user, horrible mate, or a true honest caring loving good sole,, what one is it > >? lol

Posted by: Nick on 2010-03-09, 01:19:03

Only if he asks and is completely prepared for it. If you don't think he is then leave out some of the more risque stuff unless of course its a health issue...I know from experience I remember everything everyone of my exes told me even to this day keep that in mind to.

Posted by: SnakeHissperer on 2010-03-09, 01:19:12

Leave the past in the past. If he asks do not go there. You want to feel he is the best and not worry about competing with someone in bed. If you tell him he will wonder if it is him you are thinking about when you guys are intimate. The only thing you should tell him is if you have ANY STD. If you have one and know and do not tell...courts have upheld assault charges, battery and in the case of AIDS attempted murder.

Posted by: Cool Rock on 2010-03-09, 01:19:31

History in the sens its past. A past is always past and don't think and discuss with your bf or gf. Not good for the relationship and the future. So forget the past and think of a good future. Enjoy the life as it is now. Don't mixup and mess up.

Posted by: falconthefirst on 2010-03-09, 01:25:14

I dont know if u r suppose to tell him or not about your sexual history, but two things i know for sure, i mean that your relationship with him is suppose to be based on trust and respect, the other thing is that u r not suppose to lie about your past sexual experiences cos really it is not a good thing to do

Posted by: simi s123456789 on 2010-03-09, 01:27:51

It doesn't really matters to them..if it does, say what you want to b/ c ur past is ur past and he shud concentrate on ur present and future if together...

Posted by: Adam Falcon on 2010-03-09, 01:33:09

This question is only answerable to you and your boyfriend.... I have dated girls where I did ask and found out everything and ones where I didn't. Its up to you to feel out the situation. But whatever you do....its not something to discuss early in a relationship unless its something big he really needs to know like an STD. But as a rule coming as a guy with experience.... You should be up front and honest about the big stuff, and giving him a general overview is a good idea. If he asks if you've had sex, don't lie and say your a virgin if you're not...if he asks how many partners you've had, tell him because if you don't it will eat him up anyway since he asked he really wants to know.... he's much better off not knowing usually but not answering is worse for him. But if he asks what sexual acts you've done, thats not his business... and DEFINATELY if he wants to know names, thats not his business. Just feel out the situation. He doesn't need to know everything. But a general overview is a good idea. But only if he asks.... if he doesn't ask. It means he doesn't want to know and don't tell him.

Posted by: coolguy on 2010-03-09, 01:37:19

Not really. past is past. just forget past n enjoy present.

Posted by: Raj311 on 2010-03-09, 07:13:11

It all depends on the kind of person he is. We often have had friend we has hooked up with. If its just a relationship yeah its all cool, i think. If it is serious, you need need to separate a part of your life. which means even cut some people out of your life. Me: I do not want to be at a bar when my girlfriend who I may marry soon has 8 of her friends she hooked up with hanging out. So it all depends on the person, comfort zone etc