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Question: Reasonable and unreasonable sexual history?

(Posted by: Confused_Guy on 2010-03-09 17:40:31)

I can deal with all the guys that she has been with. That's not the problem. The problem is that when she was a little younger she was with two guys at the same time. Is it wrong for me to have a problem with that? I just can't seem to deal it. There is an unsaid expectation of grace over a persons previous sexual history. I don't think it extends to include orgies or two guys at the same time. That's like being in the porno. I can deal with all the guys she has had sex with but I just can't deal with the two on one thing. What would you do? She waited to tell me this until we were engaged and now I'm emotionally involved but disgusted with her. What are your thoughts? I can't get the image out of my mind. What if you just got engaged to your guy and found out that he had been in several threesomes before he met you? What if you found out he had been with a pornstar? The fact that she waited until we were engaged and then was terrified to tell me says it all. I don't mind a woman having some experience but when she is skilled like a porn star that isn't a good thing.